Chances are you’ve already seen this video, it’s winning the internet right now. But I love this on so many levels. There is something pretty great about adding a flash mob to your proposal. But that got me thinking. I’m doing a couple of weddings this month, and it’s always a time of great joy and celebration. But there are always some hiccups in every wedding, all the family dysfunctions can bubble to the surface (and every family has some dyfunctions!) But Did you ever wonder why weddings bring out the best and the worst in us? There is something primal about two people giving their lives to each other. As If, it is tapping into the nature of the Universe.
And we love to talk about it.
There’s a reason why the #1 grossing movie of all time isn’t Star Wars, it’s Titantic it grosses 1, billion 835.4 million dollars. There’s a reason that you can’t turn on your radio without hearing someone sing about how much they love someone else.
Romantic love for many is the end itself, but that fails to grasp how big it actually is.
I like the way C.S. Lewis talks about this:
The Event of falling in love is of such a nature that we are right to reject as intolerable the idea that it should be transistory. In one high bound it has overleaped the massive wall of our selfhood; it has made appetite itself altruistic, tossed personal happiness aside as a triviality and planted the interest of another in the center of our being. Spontaneously and without effort we have fulfilled the law (towards one person) by loving our neighbor as ourselves. It is an image, a foretaste, of what we must become to all if Love Himself rules in us without a rival. It is even preparation for that.
On some level, I have always been a romantic person.I believe Whenever a man kisses a woman no matter who he is, he is in over his head. But Romantic love is never the end in itself, it always points past itself. It progresses, it forces us to make promises, and ultimately to give ourselves away to the other person.
It progresses, a lot of times, to a wedding.
Charles Williams was a close friend and co-worker of C.S. Lewis, and he dedicated much of his life to understand romantic love. He believed that it was a shadow of a deeper realityAnd that, if we looked closely, we just might see the fingerprints of God. Because romance can kind of transcendence itself, if we let it.
It gives us a glimpse into how God sees us. How he sees His creation. William Shakespeare said about lovers, “They have changed eyes.” And he’s right, for a brief time, romance gives us the ability to see the best in one other person. We are able to ignore all their flaws, and they are able to ignore ours.
This gives us a glimpse into one day how we will view every resurrected person, and most of all, God Himself. This is what every wedding promises, but no marriage can fully deliver, It is is a glimpse into the heart of God.
So I hope you can enjoy this upcoming wedding season, but realize it’s so much more than what you can just see in front of you. It’s a sign that points past itself.
It’s a sign of Heaven, and the God who created romance.